
Changes have never been easy for me, and saying good-bye to wonderful friends… well, frankly… it hurts. Ever since the decision was made to move to the Washington D.C. area, I’ve been on a rollercoaster of emotions. One minute, elated for new opportunities, being united with old friends, Costco… and yes.. I DID just say Costco :) The next minute I’d find myself embarrassingly enough… in tears.
So… why the tears? To be completely honest with you, when I first moved to South Bend, I hated it. I’m a Texas girl… you know… from the ‘friendly’ state? Not only was it hard to make new friends in this strange land… but the weather was cold for way too long. I felt alone, and was often dreaming of my old home in Naples, Florida and wondering why I had thrown myself at the mercy of life in “Hoosierland.” Yuk!
Things began to change about two years ago when I finally started getting out of the house, I joined the WBOM (Women’s Business Owners of Michiana) to try to drum up some consulting business. For me… this was one of the best decisions I made, and it was the beginning of a huge attitude change towards these people that called themselves “Hoosiers.”
At WBOM, I met Kerri Blair, of Kerri’s Avenue Salon, who, over time, has become one of my best friends. What started as a business relationship quickly turned into a close friendship. Being a young and somewhat inexperienced entrepreneur, Kerri taught me many valuable lessons on building relationships, networking and standing up for myself.
Kerri was quickly followed with friendships like Elizabeth LaRocco, owner of Hugs From Heaven Baby Boutique, Sue and Pat Mulligan of Mulligans Bar and Grill, Amber, Liz, Ryan… And the numbers grew. I guess “Hoosiers” weren’t so bad after all.
Last year, I ventured out of the house and started a full time job with the Pinnacle Group of Indiana. Social Media was the game… or… job that is. My experience at Pinnacle was life-changing… to say the least. Co-workers quickly became friends, as did clients and so many other people that I met through my work there.
Pinnacle challenged me to learn new things and to stretch way outside my comfort zone. I began to follow blogs and learned of great minds like Seth Godin and Mitch Joel. I was in a constant school of business, drinking in every word and action at client meetings. Listening to the business leaders there, and learning.
One of my strengths during my time with Pinnacle was in networking and building relationships with local leaders. In saying good-bye to these connections, I’ve found myself choking up. I had to ask myself… why the heck would I want to cry and feel so sad saying goodbye to someone like Mark McDonnell of LaSalle Grill? He’s a business relationship.
But you see… Mark is way more than that to me. Mark is a friend that will be greatly missed. I’ll probably think of Mark every time I sit down in a restaurant and receive coffee that’s just… well… sub-par.
You see… If I’ve built a business relationship with you… then I’ve built a friendship. To me… the two are inseparable.
Right now, as it stands, I have friends all over South Bend. Large business friends. Small business friends. No business friends.
So I want to personally thank you for changing my outlook, bringing joy to my life, and finally… for making me cry:
To my dear neighbors on our secluded cul-de-sac, you will be sorely missed. Katie & Nick, Charity & Chris and your beautiful kiddos who have been the best friends to ours.. what will we do without you? I’ll have to find someone else from whom to borrow a cup of sugar or bottle of wine :) You guys are truly the best!
Thanks to WBOM members, Allison Nanni, Patti Spice, Hope Nutting, Karen Barnett and especially my bff, (and yes… I DID just use that terminology :) Kerri Blair. For the beautiful hair styles and the advice… whether solicited or not… you know it was always heard and often taken :)
Thanks to my band… especially TJ for giving me a chance as a ‘band’ newbie when others did not. You guys are amazing. Adam, Tony, Greg, Brandon… you opened my eyes to so many new and interesting things in life. It truly was a pleasure :)
Have to give a huge shout-out to my favorite karaoke DJ’s and local friends (yes… we all know I’m an addict). Jerry and Marcus, you’re the best! Thanks for bumping Debbie and I up the list on numerous occasions. I will really be missing you in D.C. Don’t think I’ll be getting such favoritism there :) Thanks Elizabeth L., Lisa, Tracey, Amber, Liz & Ryno for the fun, laughs and a little bit of perspective :)
To my lovely ND Law Student friends PJ and Kaitlin… thanks for keeping me young and making me feel like a gourmet chef! Y’all are welcome to visit us any time :)
SMC Chicago… you guys rock! My first “Social” experience. Jeff Willinger, Rebecca Denison, Tim McDonald, Jessica Murray… thanks for all the advice and for your help in jumpstarting SMC Michiana.
Thanks to the NWI TweetUp group. You were my first real tweetup experience. Dave Woodson, Nat Finn… you guys had me rolling more than once. Karl, Nichole, Saan, Chris (yes… I remembered your name this time. LOL), Jay, all of y’all… thank you for being so welcoming to me. You will be missed.
Thanks to my wonderful SMCN (Social Media Coaching Network) group. You guys were such a hoot! Loved every minute. Juan Flores, Andy Jewett, Sally Brown, Cathy Baldwin, Wendy Ballast, Tammy Dodd, Ann Lagomarcino, Mark McDonnell, Laurell McDonnell, Nancy McDonnell.
Huge thanks to the original SMC Michiana team… Edgar Diaz from Memorial Hospital, my new bff (yes… I DID use the term AGAIN) Elizabeth Cecconi from the South Bend Airport. You guys have made such an awesome team. Everyone has worked so hard to get our organization off the ground.
I’ve had so much fun getting to know the Agency ND group over at Notre Dame, Don Schindler and Tim O’Connor. Don, thanks for all of your advice. You ARE the real thing. Tim, thanks for inviting me to tailgate with y’all. I had a real blast and FINALLY had the opportunity tailgate, ND style. You guys are the best :)
My friends at OrderedList.com, Steve Smith and John (What’s his name? Yeah… I’m GREAT at forgetting names… LOL). Steve… I’ll be hitting you up for that bacon-wrapped jalapeño tailgate recipe!
Tony and Tina’s Wedding gang… especially Elizabeth LaRocco… Thanks for the laughs and fun, girl! You’re a wonderful mama, a creative entreprenuer and sweet friend. For the rest of the crew… I had so much fun getting to know y’all. Being in an off-broadway play was a ton of work, but so worth the friendships that came out of it!
SBPD – Yes… South Bend Police Department… Namely… @edwardlife. You do an amazing job with the SBPD social media, and it was such fun getting to know you. Thanks for being such a great tweep :)
I have to thank my co-workers at Pinnacle, especially Jason, Jen, Janet, Ryan, Neil, Joel, Bill, Lamar… the ‘privileged’ few who saw both sides of ‘the girl with the curl in the middle of her forehead.’ Thanks for lending an ear & putting up with me every day :) At work, I had the privilege of being a part of both the development team and the sales team… and honorary front office and IT team. All of you guys rock. You made me smile and laugh, allowed me to make fun of you and be loud and obnoxious. Hope you enjoy the peace and quiet that you will now be enjoying, irregardless of the fact that I’m sure someone will step into my shoes soon :)
Thank you to the Pinnacle management team, especial Mark Meyer. You’ve been an awesome business mentor, and I have sooo many take-aways… still ‘wrapping my mind’ around it all :) As for the rest of you… thanks for being patient with me and putting up with my mistakes… you know… like ordering a $40 fish for a guest because I (we) didn’t think to look at the menu prices? You guys are awesome. (And if you haven’t told Maurice about that one yet… good thing my last day is Friday! LOL)
Even though I’m taking him with me… I’d be very remiss if I didn’t say thank you to my ”Awesome” (watch “Chuck” to understand that one), Trent Hillaert (also an original “Hoosier”), for putting up with the many sides of ‘me’ through all of this. Thanks, hun :)
Honestly, I have so many new and wonderful friends here, that it would take pages to get to everyone. Fact is… “Hoosiers” really aren’t so bad after all. I’m leaving with a major attitude change, a ton of friends, and a fresh outlook on life.
So… if I cry when I say goodbye to you… please don’t take it as a sign of weakness… but the fact that I truly care… and you will be missed… dearly.
One last note… (and yes… this IS a threat) if I find that you have come within one hour of me, and have not Tweeted or FB’d me. You will be reckoned with! Next time you come to the D.C. area… your drink’s on me. (How’s that for incentive? :)
Twitter: @mhillaert
Facebook: http://facebook.com/michellehillaert
LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/michellehillaert
YouTube: (Well… let me think about that… NAH ;)
Phone: Friend me on Facebook. Look in the info tab. (Like I’m really going to put THAT on a blog? LOL)
My final Michiana #FF:
@mitchjoel (Six Pixels of Separation – only non-local #FF, a real value-add), @donschindler, @oaknd1, @orderedlist, @viewfromsbn, @diptoe, @edwardlife, @davewoodson, @natfinn, @ktatgenhorst, @rebeccadenison, @jwillie, @jasonfisher, @momadvice, @dadadvice, @joelchmiel, @kemmeyer, @markmeyer, @jafields
There are many more I could add… but these are the people that I connected with on a daily basis. Great networkers or awesome sharers of information. Thanks y’all!